Creating Safe Spaces During the Festive Season

As a clinical psychologist specialising in trauma, Dr. Asha Patel has witnessed first-hand the profound impact domestic abuse can have on children and young people. Early trauma-informed support is crucial in helping these young individuals navigate their experiences and build resilience.

This article aims to provide practical insights for frontline practitioners on how to support children and young adults affected by domestic abuse, particularly during the festive season when anxiety and stress levels may be heightened.

Understanding the Long-Term Approach

Supporting children affected by domestic abuse requires a sustained approach. Consistency and stability are key in helping them feel safe and understood. The Healing Together Programme offers a structured framework for providing early trauma-informed support. This programme includes six sessions that focus on helping children understand how their body and brain work together and teaching them strategies to feel calm and safe.

Preparing for the Festive Season

The festive season can be particularly challenging for children affected by domestic abuse. The prospect of leaving the safety and routine of school can increase anxiety and stress. Here are some practical suggestions for frontline practitioners to help children prepare for this period:

1. Create a Safe Space: Ensure that children have a safe and supportive environment where they can express their feelings and concerns. This can be a designated area in school or a community centre where they feel secure and have a safe regulated adult to access.
   
   
2. Routine and Structure: Maintain as much routine and structure as possible. Predictability can help children feel calmer and less anxious. Encourage parents and caregivers to establish a holiday routine that includes regular activities and quiet time.
   
   
3. Calming Strategies: Teach children calming strategies that they can use when they feel overwhelmed. The Healing Together Programme includes sessions on calm breathing, understanding their brain, and using their senses to feel safe. Practicing these techniques regularly can help children to cope with big feelings during the holidays.
   
   
4. Support Networks: Encourage children to stay connected with their support networks, whether it’s friends, family, or trusted adults. Social connections can provide a sense of belonging and reduce feelings of isolation.