We all have a mental health. Mental health is a thread that runs through each person, shaping their experiences, thoughts, and emotions. While mental ill health and difficulties can affect anyone, children are particularly vulnerable. These vulnerabilities are not of their making; instead, they are inherited predispositions that do not define who they are.
Children bear the weight of both genetic and environmental variables that increase their vulnerabilities to mental health difficulties, but it is important to remember that these predispositions are not choices made by children, but rather genetic hand-me-downs or responses to early life experiences.
Genetics can influence predisposition to mental health conditions, as can environmental factors. Childhood experiences, family dynamics, and socio-economic conditions can all contribute to the development of mental health challenges. Children who grow up in unstable or unsafe environments may be more prone to conditions like depression, post-traumatic stress disorder or complex trauma responses. However, it's important to emphasize that these environmental factors do not determine a child's future.
What defines children are not the predispositions or the challenges they may face, but their ability to grow and thrive despite these factors. Resilience is building inner strength, a quality that can be nurtured. It is relational, meaning that as adults, it is our responsibility to provide the support needed for children to develop resilience and overcome adversity. When we feel emotionally connected and safe, feelings of resilience are strengthened; conversely, when we feel dysregulated, feelings of resilience decreases.
One of the most impactful ways we can support children is by being a safe, grounded adult who offers unconditional empathy. When children feel safe, heard, and understood, they are better equipped to navigate the challenges that come their way. Being a safe adult means creating an environment where children can express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or rejection. Unconditional empathy means acknowledging and validating a child's emotions. It means being present for them, offering a listening ear, and reassuring them that they are not alone. When children know they have a safe adult by their side, they are more likely to develop moments of resilience they need to face life's difficulties.
Together, we can create an environment where our children feel safe and supported, helping them overcome their challenges and thrive in life.
To learn more about resilience in children, download our free webinar hosted by Jane Evans, Childhood Trauma Expert and Co-Creator of Healing Together:
https://lp.healing-together.co.uk/children-more-resilient-webinar1